James Rohr writes...

Looking Beyond the Obviously Visible…


Early on, when my would be ex-wife and I decided to separate, we were all still living together in New York. Our son, Wyatt, was about two and a half years old at the time. This was easily the worst time in my life. So I spent a lot of time in meditation and prayer.

During one meditation, I was in the kitchen while Wyatt was playing in the other room with a puzzle. His mom and I hadn’t said anything to him in person yet since none of the details had been worked out. I closed my eyes, searching for any kind of solace in this turbulent time, and that’s when I heard a voice, that was more like a feeling, telling me to go find his spirit and talk to his soul about what was happening.

So I followed the suggestion, as most of my meditations that time were just a running loop of fear and anxiety. I was delighted to hear a different guidance. I imagined myself walking into the room where he was and I imagined him playing there as a two and a half year old. And then, standing next to him, I saw something that looked like he might look when he is 16 or 17 years old.

He looked at me when my imagined self walked into the room and his spirit said, “Hey Dad.”

“Ummmm, hey Wyatt. Nice to see you here like this,” I stammered.

“Yeah, it’s what you and I do,” he replied, very matter-of-factly.

“Right, sure, ok,” I said, trying to be cool, as if this was totally normal. “Well, I’ve got to talk to you about something. Your mom and I are having some issues and it looks like we’re going to be splitting up.”

“I know, Dad. It’s ok. Everything is going along as it should be.”

Huh?It is?!’ I thought, amazed, comforted, and saddened all at once. “Thanks, Wyatt. You know, this isn’t your fault and has nothing to do with you.”

“I know, Dad. It’s ok.”

“Ok, well, at some point we’re going to be changing our living situation to where you’ll have mommy’s house and daddy’s house. In each house, you’ll be incredibly loved and supported. In each house, you’ll have your toys and books and everything you need to be happy.”

“Ok, Dad. Thanks. I love you.”

“I love you, too, Wyatt. So much. I’m so lucky you chose me, and us.”

And as quickly as it began, it ended. I felt all my energy return to me in the kitchen. ‘Well that was fucked up,’ I thought. It happened so quickly that I figured I may had just made it all up. Given my emotional state, I was having difficulty discerning my own thoughts from the more honest, intuitive experiences.

I didn’t say anything about it to anyone.

When I came home from work the following day, Wyatt was already asleep. His mom asked me, “Did you talk to Wyatt about what’s happening with us?”

Me, actually forgetting about the meditation the day before, assuming she was asking an actual verbal, in person, normal conversation with him, “No, I didn’t say anything to him. Why?”

“Well, he was looking for a particular toy today. He searched a bunch of places and when he couldn’t find it, he stopped and looked at me and asked, ‘Is that toy at mommy’s house or daddy’s house?’”

My jaw went slack. “Seriously?!”

“Yep. Completely. I haven’t said anything to him about any of this. Are you sure you didn’t say anything to him?”

So I told her the story. “I guess I did say something, on some sort of spiritual meditation level, but nothing was said in person.”

She rolled her eyes. “Well, he heard it….what am I going to do with the two of you?”

For most of us, most of the time, it isn’t usually that difficult to say whatever is culturally appropriate. But, what is your spirit saying?

What is the intention behind your words?

What are you communicating with another’s soul that you may not even be aware?

What are you hoping they hear, and what they don’t hear, about you?

And what if that entire wanted and unwanted conversation is actually happening?

Since that day, I’ve taken even more steps to make sure what I feel, what I say, and what I do are in alignment, going beyond what is obvious and tangible, to account for the entire mind/body/spirit spectrum. It's like becoming a laser, where as much of you as possible is in clear and direct alignment, a greater conduit to channel powerful love.


About the Author:


James Rohr, L.Ac., is an energy interventionist for dating and relationships. He apprenticed to a Native American Shaman when he was 16 years old, earned his undergraduate degree from Stanford University and holds a Masters in Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine. He has worked for the last 15 years helping people overcome blocks to love and intimacy. His first book, Unlearning Stress, is available on amazon.com. He can be reached via www.jameserohr.com.

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